How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)

In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie explores what he claims are the best techniques to making new friends and meeting new people. Remembering people’s names, letting the other person do the majority of the talking, and speaking in terms of a person’s interests are the keys to basically making a friend out of anyone you meet.
In the first chapter, the author gives a few brief references to mobsters but is also quick to point out that when one deals with other people, one is not simply dealing with logical thinking individuals but those that are emotional beings; who are all motivated by both pride and vanity. Through a multitude of examples, Carnegie reveals to his readers how to treat others with respect and dignity while at the same time relating to them as people. My friend John who owns a carpet cleaning company knows this to be very true, when dealing with customers.
This book is not to be confused with books containing relationship advice concerning love interests or potential romantic relationships. Carnegie intended his written advice to be used more so for the business world than anything else. Attempting to apply his techniques to a potential new love interest would more than likely only end with disastrous results.
However, many of his techniques can apply to most social situations. Though the times have changed since this book was written, people have not changed and the expectations that people hold when encountering new individuals in a business environment has remained the same throughout the decades. Having good manners is important, as is remembering a person’s name make conversation easier, especially if you aren’t too sure what to say.
Far too many social skills have become lost in the frequent use of everyday technology. Cell phones, social media, and TV have replaced time once spent with friends and co-workers in person. Carnegie’s book helps teach readers that it doesn’t take too much work nor skill to interact smoothly with others. All it really requires is the use of confidence and some simple knowledge on how people think and how you can best relate to them to gain their respect.
Carnegie also warns that being overly critical of someone is far more detrimental to their overall well-being. Too much criticism inhibits learning and destroys self-confidence. He goes on to point out that we must remember as humans are emotional beings and thrive on positive reinforcement. Part of this mentality is the belief that no one should speak ill of another person. Not only is it in poor taste but what goes around comes around and before you know it, other people may speak ill of you as well.
Author Dale Carnegie breaks down his advice in several different sections, each containing chapters. Using sound advice with age-old wisdom, you too can master the art of making new friends in the business world. All you have to do is implement some or all (it’s your choice) of these techniques. Bring them into your life and soon you will feel more like a success than you will have ever felt in your life.

Think and Grow Rich (Napolean Hill)

When people see the word “rich,” they assume it means “wealth with money.” There is more to it than that. Despite the name of the title, you can’t just think about getting rich. You have to take action. By taking action, that’s when things happen. People that only daydream of things of getting rich will never get rich. That’s why there is a small percentage of people that are financially rich compare to most people that are struggling financially.
Think about this for a moment. When Napoleon Hill wrote this during his time, he definitely knew what he was talking about because he actually interviewed many of the wealthy folks that gave him tips and ideas on how they got rich. You have to know how to do things while also using networking to your advantage. One of the most important thing that you need to know is to use the skills that you’re meant to use to help you make some money in your life. Money doesn’t mean everything. It’s just a means to help you to survive no matter where you are.
People that use what they know how to do usually tend to stay happy because they’re doing something that they love. A career is an even better option than just having a job. The book does offer ways to get a job even though it’s not updated to include social media and any other means that we use nowadays to get a job or a career. Even though it’s missing that part, the way of how to do things definitely help for many people that succeed in life. No matter how old you are, there are ways to get around on getting what you want without taking advantage of people in the wrong way. That’s why networking with people is also important as well. I learned how important networking is when i was selling legal services not long ago. You never know who can help you with your search even if it’s not for job or career related issues.
It is a book that I highly recommend for everyone to read because it offers many ideas and tips that are useful even to this day. It should be a classroom textbook for students to read while they’re still young such as during in middle school. All of the chapters are well organized, attractive and are filled with facts that are useful no matter what year we’re in. Because of all of these things, that’s why Think and Grow Rich is a classic in and of itself. It should be read more than once just for the information to sink in to the readers. Another tip is to highlight the most important parts that matter and be remembered after reading it.
You can find this book online and even in your local bookstore. It comes in an ebook and either hard copy or paperback editions. When you needed some inspiration, Think and Grow Rich should be included as one of the books to have in your life. You’ll find this book valuable just as much as I do. It’s definitely one of my favorite books of all time

The Best of Me (Nicholas Sparks)

 

It is with a heavy heart that I give Nicholas Sparks book “The Best of Me” my first ever bad review for him. The preamble opens with and gives promises of young love, and high school sweethearts. It then takes us to a funeral, years later, where they meet again and rekindle their love.
It turns out that their love never really died. They instantly have chemistry again. Dawson Cole, was a troubled boy and she was a beautiful well protected girl. They then fall in love and the story starts to unravel for me there.
In the beginning of the novel there is this ghost that keeps showing up at very important times in Dawson’s life. The fact that Nicholas tried to add a metaphorical character took away all seriousness of the novel. It made me get distracted instead of pulling me closer into the novel.
I am only saying this because it’s nota Syfy novel, all of Nicholas’s novels are love stories, not science fiction novels. It really surprised me that he took this route. Then there is the issue of the letters that Tuck, the friend whose funeral was the reason for Amanda and Dawson to get back together again.
The ending of the book caused the letters to mean absolutely nothing because of how he chosed to end the novel. I am not sure why he chose to include the letters at all. It seemed like a way to add to the page numbers and nothing else.  I couldn’t find any real reason why he would add that to the story if it didn’t have any other ties to the book.
It seems like Sparks was given a chance to give his novel a wonderful loving ending, but decided to give it a heartbreaking ending. He seems to do this quite often with a lot of his novels. Maybe this is becoming a pattern for what we are going to see from him from now on? We will have to wait to find out for sure.
I am aware that life is not a fairy tale and things do not always work out as they seem. However, things do not tragically happen to the same person over and over and over again. According to Nicholas, it is all the people that he is writing about. Would it kill him to allow us one happy ending.  I can almost predict what happens in his novels from the beginning and we all know that being predictable is not a good thing in the book industry.
If you become predictable people lose interest. It all boils down to the book, “The Best of Me” was a very sad and predictable book. I hope that Sparks learns to mix things up in the future. Otherwise you can count me off as one of his fans.